(Author Unknown)Rugby is a game played by most boys in New Zealand in their childhood, though some don’t want to play it at all. A significant section of the community have always preferred to play a different sport, like soccer.But Rugby gets all the status in New Zealand, commanding all the respect. So much so that those who play soccer are often made to feel like second-class citizens. They lack the mana of those who play the nation’s revered game.To end this discrimination we have decided to redefine Rugby to include any sport involving two teams with a ball. As long as you love your team-ball sport you are a rugby player and should be recognised as such in law. Some of our opponents try scare mongering by saying: “well then hockey will end up being called rugby” – but that is not what we are saying at all. This bill is only about soccer players having the right to be considered rugby players like all other rugby players. Hockey uses a stick and no one is saying that should be called rugby.This isn’t about whether you prefer soccer or rugby. It is a fundamental matter of justice and equality. Why should those soccer players who play every week with a ball against another team not have the equal opportunity and right to be recognised in the street as rugby players? Why are they denied the title and privileges on the grounds that they play differently? Shouldn’t all boys in New Zealand have the same rights regardless of their sporting preference? Why discriminate against boys for the way they choose to play their ball-sport? Aren’t we a country that prizes freedom of choice? In New Zealand you can be a rugby player if you are a boy or a girl, an Asian, Indian, Maori or European…. but apparently not if you are a soccer player.We should remember that rugby itself has historically undergone many changes. Once upon a time, there were only four points for a try and now there are five. There are eight in the scrum today instead of six in earlier times. Before you had to jump by yourself in the lineout and now you can be lifted. So the Rugby Union is happy to adjust and refine the definition of rugby throughout the ages– but for some reason they stop at soccer. That old boys’ club want to control the definition themselves because underneath, they really regard soccer players as wusses. But look at how they handled their own finances in Otago. And let’s never forget that once upon a time there were white Rugby Union teams in South Africa who refused to let black people be rugby players alongside them. Do we want to perpetuate the same kind of discrimination by denying that soccer is an equally legitimate form of rugby?New Zealand has always prided itself on a clear separation between sport and politics, and in the 21st century our political system needs to be free from all forms of discrimination. We led the world in giving women the vote. Yet there are still those who are happy to bar the door to those who play sport differently. There is no point in having a referendum on the issue because of course most rugby-playing New Zealanders will want to defend their privileges and guard the status quo.Some say that we have already achieved equality, when the national soccer team finally got called the “All Whites”. That was a step in the right direction, but it didn’t go far enough. Soccer players need the same access to the “All Black” name and jersey. It’s not good enough to call them “All Whites” when overseas everyone’s heard of the All Blacks. No one talks about the All Whites. It is time to embrace the right of all ball-playing New Zealanders to be regarded as rugby players, regardless of the shape of the ball they use and how they choose to handle it.UPDATE: Please note that we have removed the reference to suicide in this satirical piece. In light of horrendous stats on suicide just released, it was an inappropriate reference. The piece was sent to us – we didn’t write it – but we should have vetted it better. We apologise for any offense the reference may have caused. It was certainly not our intention.
Tweet Share 93 Views no discussions LifestyleRelationships 10 Things That Prevent Guys from Approaching You by: – September 19, 2011 Share Recently, at a wedding, I witnessed a dance floor with a friend who is an ecologist. In the middle of this dance floor, a girl approached a guy, legs slightly spread, while slapping her thighs with the back of her hands while looking him in the eye.My ecologist friend, in his “Darwinian” mindset, jokingly exclaimed: “Oh wow, she’s presenting!”You don’t have to emulate an Animal Planet mating documentary to get a guy to approach you when you’re out, but body language is important. You have to give a guy an opening, and make yourself available.I want my approach to appear to be well-timed, and I don’t like it when I feel like I’m interrupting. Sometimes the situation lends itself to an approach: there’s something extraordinary to talk about, or we just bump into each other. Pay attention to your actions when you’re out. If you want guys to approach you, are you making it easy on them — are you “available”? Some girls might want the guy to “work” as part of the approach, but for every one of you who makes it tough for a guy to approach, there are women who make it easier to approach that a guy might go for instead.Here are a few things women do that prevent guys from approaching them:INTIMIDATIONLots of FriendsWhen girls are in a group, I know that I’m going to be “evaluated” as soon as I walk away. It’s tough enough to walk up to one girl, let alone a group.Too HotIf she’s super-hot, sometimes I assume I have no chance or I’m just plain intimidated. Most guys will give it the old college try though. This, by the way, is the best reason for your ego why guys aren’t approaching: “I’m just so hot I’m intimidating.”UNATTRACTIVE APPEARANCEDancing on Tables (aka Super-Drunk Girl)One night, we were out and a girl intermittently stood up on the seat of her booth and did stripper-type dances. The guys in the bar looked, but never approached. It’s tough to approach a whirling dervish and no one could take her seriously. And sometimes the “too drunk” girl gets approached by guys who are interested in one thing only.Looking SloppyI don’t usually approach girls who don’t look stylish and put together. Now, if you want to keep guys away from you, doing the “celeb in public homeless look” might be a good strategy.Looking Angry/SnobbySmiling and eye contact is inviting, while anger, and looking like you’re too good for everyone, drives people away. Try to give off positive vibes, and more people will approach.TAKENWith a Guy in Any CapacityYou appear to be taken if you arrive with guys, or meet guys while you’re out. Guys have no way of knowing if you’re “with” a guy. Some guys might ask, but some might just move on to someone who looks more available. RingNow I’ll admit that I’m clueless, even for a guy. I’m not sure about the wedding ring/engagement rules: which hand/finger gets the ring? I know one has a big diamond, and one looks like a simple ring. But unmarried women wear all sorts of rings. Your ring that looks like a wedding ring might be keeping guys away (or maybe stupid guys like me, which is probably a good thing).DO NOT DISTURBBusyIt’s easier to approach a girl who looks bored, like she wants someone to talk to. In a café, if she’s reading a book, or has her face in her laptop, I assume she’s busy and doesn’t want to deal with my stupid pick-up attempt. In a bar, if she seems content doing whatever she’s doing, I won’t want to interrupt.Tough to CatchI’ve devised strategic plans to make a move, waiting for a girl to go to the bar, or bathroom. But when she finally gets up she walks too fast, or takes “bodyguards” (tons of friends) with her. Bottom line, some women just don’t give that opening physically for the approach. Remember, your migratory patterns might be exactly what that guy is waiting for, so be on the lookout when you’re on the move.Room PositioningIf you’re in the corner all night, or buried behind chairs and tables, you not only cut yourself off from the rest of the world, but some guys don’t want to slalom obstacles to get to you. If you want guys to approach you, you might want to move or try out some other spots.Do you agree with my list above? What actions do you think deter guys from approaching you? What actions make a guy tough to approach?by Rich Santos, Marie Claire Sharing is caring! Share